The In Between

Kelsea Ballerini said it best when she wrote "in between just a fling and a ring, in between an apartment and a front porch swing" and the relatability of those lyrics is probably why it is one of my favorite songs. At 25 years old, I feel too old for a lot of things, but way too young for a lot all at the same time.

I find myself at an age where there's two groups of people; those who are married and having babies and those who aren't. If you are in the group that are embracing those roles and life changes, that's awesome! If you're in the group that hasn't entered that season, that's also awesome! However, I think we spend a lot of time focusing on those who are in that phase of their lives, and don't talk about how isolating the latter of the two is. I find myself in my mid twenties and am single as can be and the most commitment I can imagine right now is taking care of my four year old dog, let alone a baby. There are times I feel so behind schedule and way off track. Society has made us believe you HAVE to be married by a certain age and have kids or something is wrong with you. We wake up one day and we are all on the 10-yard line, and then we wake up the next still on the 10-yard line while some of our best friends have advanced to the 50.

Despite feeling behind in life because that's how society has told us to feel, I think the most difficult part of it all is feeling your friends slip away into the next phase of their lives without you. Again, I am so happy for anyone who has found happiness with their significant other or with their family, but the reality of it is that things change and the dynamic of your relationships change whether we would like to admit it or not.

If you came to this post hoping for some excellent advice on how to navigate through this season of singleness and be empowered, I am sorry I truly have nothing else to offer besides letting you know you're not alone. However, if you have any advice or what you would like to share feel free to put it in the comments, I'll read every single one! I think the purpose of this post is to not only put these thoughts that have been living in my head down on this blog, but also to let you all know you're not alone because I have been feeling this for awhile. In fact, I feel this so often that I've labeled it my quarter life crisis. I think I've had about 15 of them by now 😂 In fact I think I am triggered all over again when my mom keeps asking me when I am going to find someone or my friends talk about their relationships and I have nothing to offer besides sit there awkwardly and quietly as the odd one out in the group. I find myself repeating to myself all the time, I am in my TWENTIES! I am still so young to where I feel like a child who still needs to call my mom to ask if I can leave my crockpot on when I'm not home.

I may not have any solid advice and have probably rambled on too long by this point, but I will leave you with this... You are not less than because you are single. You are not less than because you haven't started a family. You are not less than because you don't want to start a family. You are not less than because you haven't reached the peak of your career. We are all at different phases in our lives, and that's the beauty of it all. You never know what tomorrow has in store, it could be the best day of your life and you have no idea. You are right on time while stuck in the in between🤍